The younger LGBT community has a voice that is different than the voice of the 1980’s. I can say that because I’m older; not dead but older. I have people ask in different settings, “What should I have said?” “How do I know what is the right way to let the family in on the ‘family’?” As the decades pass, the answer changes with words but not meaning. “Be truthful with yourself” ,”Stay true to yourself”, or “Be true to thine own self” and all of those statement lead to one reality; being true to one’s self looks different for every person.
I know…right! That is not a clear answer, there is no cut and dry response to inner peace. There are a million paths that lead you to the one true fit for you! I have some guidelines that I have pieced together over the years that have helped my true self grow.
* I am forever learning. I do not claim to be done with life’s education on people, places, and things.
* I stay open to love changing the way it looks to me; I accept that everyone loves a different someone.
* I take responsibility for the areas I may need growth in and reach out for the knowledge I desire.
*Do no harm to others. I accept that I am not responsible for other people’s actions, nor are they mine. I can chose to respect where they are at; in that moment. Many friends, family and loved ones have met me where I was…
My viewpoint of life has changed over the decades, my need for you to ‘see’ me the way I see you is not the same. What is still true? The belief that one should be true to thine self. Respecting yourself and others can help in finding inner peace.
“It’s not what you look at the matters, it’s what you see.”
-Henry David Thoreau
Melinda Porter MA